Tag Archives: praise and punishment

The Proof is in the… Argument?!

We naturally all look at how our children are being for signs of how we’re doing as parents. We measure our methods by our successes in parenting just as much as we do in any other vital endeavor — as … Continue reading

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Digging a Little Deeper than “Misbehavior”

So — there’s this dirty little parenting myth that started decades ago and that lingers still in the rarely mentioned corners of the current social parenting contract corrupting the ears of those who listen, and driving opposition into the hearts of families everywhere. … Continue reading

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Being is not a Behavior (Re-blog)

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
Previously, I posted about time-outs and the disservice I think they do to parent-child relations, and to children’s sense of security, as well as, the miserable failure of time-outs…

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Rehab for Praise-aholics *

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
So let’s say you’re “open” to the idea of not using any punishment or praise with your child(ren)… My guess is, with any sincerity, you will find it easier than…

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Spoil the Rod, Spare the Child *

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
I feel a little funny posting about this — like, “surely everyone has figured this out” — but I have seen a number of posts on other peoples’ blogs, lately,…

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The Continuing Adventures of the EP Soccer Family

Well, it feels kind of official now — we’re driving the minivan (Syliva Brown McTague), and we actually have a soccer player in it. The consummate icon of modern parenting — the Soccer Mom — has been somehow grafted onto … Continue reading

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Time-Outs Aren’t Worth Your Time *

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
I’ve noticed in several different places on the internet in the last couple of weeks various writers, parenting experts, and parents, discussing the proper use of time-outs. And I…

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(Back to) the Basics V: Who’s the Boss

Today, I want to return to this (increasingly in-depth!) series on basic tools, perspectives, and approaches for Natural Parenting, Attachment Parenting, Cro-Magnon Parenting — whatever your favorite monicker. Before I do that, though, here are links to all of the … Continue reading

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Shakespearian Parenting Advice

Wow! What an insanely busy couple of weeks I’ve just had — way, way busier than I like to be, unless it’s busy in the yard, or busy playing! I’ve now reached that light at the end of the proverbial … Continue reading

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“Encouragement!”

A week or so ago, Natalie and I watched the 2009 movie Couple’s Retreat with Vince Vaughn, Jason Bateman and a few other recognizable faces, including (though less recognizably) Carlos Ponce as the tantric yoga instructor, Salvadore, who teaches the … Continue reading

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The Trust Equation

Today, I wanted to present you with a simple parenting algebra equation to derive trust. It says that the trust our kids feel in us is directly proportional to the product of three variables: a) our trust in ourselves as … Continue reading

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Being is not a Behavior

Previously, I posted about time-outs and the disservice I think they do to parent-child relations, and to children’s sense of security, as well as, the miserable failure of time-outs to effectively teach children anything about how we would prefer that … Continue reading

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Time-Outs Aren’t Worth Your Time

I’ve noticed in several different places on the internet in the last couple of weeks various writers, parenting experts, and parents, discussing the proper use of time-outs. And I just have to say, the only necessary or effective use of … Continue reading

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Parentisms: Children are not Football Teams

Goal obsession, competition,  performance pressure, roaring praise, penalties, and time-outs… No, these aren’t the key words for a Google search on professional football. These are methods commonly espoused by “parenting experts” for raising our children. In Western society, at least, we … Continue reading

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Training Wheels for Toddler Negotiations

As an additional part to the previous posts on the subject, I wanted to spend a little time discussing how to handle avoiding praise, punishment, and other coercive methods with little ones who are not yet developmentally capable of carrying … Continue reading

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