Tag Archives: controlling children’s behavior

The Myth of the Self-Soothing Infant

I can sum up today’s post in one sentence. That wasn’t it though… 😉 It’s simply this (and it may sound familiar if you’ve read many of my posts at all): The human brain is born without the ability to manage … Continue reading

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Growing Self-Fulfilling Humans

I won’t lie to you, friends — sometimes, and really just sometimes, I still question what we’re doing here. I sometimes still wonder — if we stay off the well-beaten paths of modern parenting, if we tenderly nurture our kids, without punishing … Continue reading

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Digging a Little Deeper than “Misbehavior”

So — there’s this dirty little parenting myth that started decades ago and that lingers still in the rarely mentioned corners of the current social parenting contract corrupting the ears of those who listen, and driving opposition into the hearts of families everywhere. … Continue reading

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The Long and Winding Road…

One of the themes this week in the various social media parenting groups to which I belong has been “process”. Several times, I’ve found myself encouraging parents to remember that growing up, learning how to negotiate life, figuring out all the … Continue reading

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The Power of Saying What You Want

In the Positive Discipline parenting course (in which Natalie and I were trained and certified as instructors last Spring…), there are a slew of different experiential activities  that instructors may share with parents in order to help underscore or increase … Continue reading

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Co-Operation Beats Compliance Every Time

“How many times do I have to tell you?!” “When are you going to learn?” “If you don’t listen to me…!”  If you’ve ever been around kids for more than a minute, you’ve likely heard some of their parents say at least something … Continue reading

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Friend of Foe — Turning Children’s Upsets into Assets for the Family

Love is the only force capable of turning an enemy into a friend. — MLK Pretty much every parent I’ve ever met, including myself (yes, I have met myself on a couple of occasions now…), has in one instance or … Continue reading

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Choose Your Own Adventure Parenting (Re-blog)

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
I almost wrote a post about it last summer, when I read the New York Magazine article, All Joy and No Fun by Jennifer Senior, but I didn’t. I was…

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Being is not a Behavior (Re-blog)

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
Previously, I posted about time-outs and the disservice I think they do to parent-child relations, and to children’s sense of security, as well as, the miserable failure of time-outs…

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Rehab for Praise-aholics *

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
So let’s say you’re “open” to the idea of not using any punishment or praise with your child(ren)… My guess is, with any sincerity, you will find it easier than…

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The END of all Tantrums

A tantrum is generally defined as “a violent demonstration of rage or frustration; a sudden display of bad temper”. When you dig deeper, you’ll discover that a so called “bad temper” refers to a “persisting angry mood”. And if we … Continue reading

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Spoil the Rod, Spare the Child *

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
I feel a little funny posting about this — like, “surely everyone has figured this out” — but I have seen a number of posts on other peoples’ blogs, lately,…

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Help Me Out — Stop Trying to Fix It *

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
As parents, we are almost constantly saddled with various repairs, clean-ups, re-workings, and resettings for our children. In fact, we get so used to being the ones to restore…

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Benefit of the Belief *

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
As parents, we’re all pretty used to being the ones most “in the know” in the family, right? We’re “the bosses”, “the head honchos”, “the leaders”, “the responsible parties”.…

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Parenting Doesn’t Have to Suck

I’ve talked about this before in some detail, but when I read Glennon Melton’s year old article, “Don’t Carpe Diem“, about how hard she thinks parenting is, I was thrown once more into a theoretical tizzy, and tantrum-like even stomped … Continue reading

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