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Digging a Little Deeper than “Misbehavior”

Posted on November 5, 2014 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

So — there’s this dirty little parenting myth that started decades ago and that lingers still in the rarely mentioned corners of the current social parenting contract corrupting the ears of those who listen, and driving opposition into the hearts of families everywhere. … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas, Parentisms | Tagged #enjoyparenting, alfie kohn, attachment parenting, behavior, behaviorism, childhood development, children, choice, controlling children's behavior, cro-magnon parenting, empathy parenting, feeleez basic emotional anatomy chart, jane nelsen, life, modeling, natural parenting, parent-child relations, parenting, parenting mythology, positive and negative behaviors, praise and punishment, unconditional parenting | 2 Comments

Co-Operation Beats Compliance Every Time

Posted on May 2, 2014 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

“How many times do I have to tell you?!” “When are you going to learn?” “If you don’t listen to me…!” If you’ve ever been around kids for more than a minute, you’ve likely heard some of their parents say at least something … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged #enjoyparenting, alfie kohn, attachment parenting, bill cosby parenting, building connection with children, children, controlling children's behavior, cooperation vs compliance, cro-magnon parenting, empathy parenting, family, modeling, natural parenting, nvc with kids, parent-child relations, parenting, working with kids | 10 Comments

Rehab for Praise-aholics *

Posted on July 1, 2013 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
So let’s say you’re “open” to the idea of not using any punishment or praise with your child(ren)… My guess is, with any sincerity, you will find it easier than…

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The Basics

Posted on June 3, 2013 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
For those of you who may be new to this blog, and therefore have essentially no idea from where I am coming, and what I advocate for parents and…

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This Day… 4.14.13

Posted on April 15, 2013 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

It did actually — somehow both finally and instantly — happen. There we were, watching this girl — this little, brand new baby of a girl, suddenly a 3-foot lightning bolt — racing around a field, with other kids she barely … Continue reading →

Posted in Beautifulness | Tagged alfie kohn, attachment parenting, competition, empathy parenting, family, kid fun, life, natural parenting, parent-child relations, parenting, soccer, sports | 3 Comments

Roots and Wings (Re-Blogged)

Posted on March 11, 2013 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
From where does your parenting come? Do you know? Have you considered what it is that motivates, informs, and drives you in dealing with your children? It’s a silly…

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Losing “No.” and Finding “Yes!”

Posted on March 1, 2013 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

I have written directly about a portion of the discourse I want to take up in this post in some detail before, and referred to this notion multiple times. Thus far, however, I have only closely considered the “no” side … Continue reading →

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(Back to) the Basics V: Who’s the Boss

Posted on January 23, 2013 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

Today, I want to return to this (increasingly in-depth!) series on basic tools, perspectives, and approaches for Natural Parenting, Attachment Parenting, Cro-Magnon Parenting — whatever your favorite monicker. Before I do that, though, here are links to all of the … Continue reading →

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Choose Your Own Adventure Parenting pt III

Posted on July 8, 2011 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

Welcome to the third and final (?!) portion of this post considering Jennifer Senior’s article in last summer’s New York Magazine, All Joy and No Fun (Why Parents Hate Parenting), which describes modern parenting as almost if not totally lacking in … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged alfie kohn, All Joy and No Fun, attachment parenting, building connection with children, children, choice, controlling children's behavior, empathy parenting, family fun, giving kids information, Jennifer Senior, manipulation, natural parenting, not rushing children, parent-child bonding, parent-child relations, parenting, parenting mythology, parents who control too much, radical parenting strategies, raising children, raising healthy humans, respecting kids' authority, spend time with your children, using empathy | 4 Comments

Parent-Centered Parenting

Posted on May 13, 2011 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

The other day, I cut and posted an article that I’d gotten hold of from some fellow parent-bloggers in India. It was discussing research into four different styles of parenting. One of the comments I got back really struck a … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged alfie kohn, children, cro-magnon parenting, disruptions to natural parenting, natural parenting, parenting, parenting expert, parenting mythology, parenting research, parenting science | 2 Comments

Rehab for Praise-aholics

Posted on August 31, 2010 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

So let’s say you’re “open” to the idea of not using any punishment or praise with your child(ren)… My guess is, with any sincerity, you will find it easier than you now think possible to switch from auto-piloting through various threats … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged alfie kohn, attachment parenting, children, choice, emotional intelligence, modeling, natural drives, parenting, parenting mythology, praise and punishment, radical parenting strategies, teaching, unconditional love, using empathy | 9 Comments

Spoil the Rod, Spare the Child

Posted on August 18, 2010 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

I feel a little funny posting about this — like, “surely everyone has figured this out” — but I have seen a number of posts on other peoples’ blogs, lately, about whether or not it is appropriate or preferable to use … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged alfie kohn, children, corporal punishment, escalation, modeling, parenting, parenting mythology, spanking, using empathy | 4 Comments

Roots and Wings

Posted on July 30, 2010 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

From where does your parenting come? Do you know? Have you considered what it is that motivates, informs, and drives you in dealing with your children? It’s a silly question really — and if we were raised in a healthy, … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged alfie kohn, attachment parenting, choice, empathy parenting, family, natural parenting, parenting, parenting goals, using empathy | 2 Comments

The (Very) Bottom Line

Posted on July 16, 2010 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

My esteemed partner/lover/child-tender/magic-maker, Natalie, and I have been talking (as some couples do…) about parenting — and other stuff — for as long as we have been together. It is something we do, like people-watching, and river-dipping, and decaf-latte-drinking. We talk … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged alfie kohn, attachment parenting, building connection with children, children, empathy parenting, family, modeling, natural parenting, parent-child bonding, parent-child relations, parenting | 5 Comments

No, no, Auto-no

Posted on June 10, 2010 by Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE, CMNEC

I don’t know if this term has been officially coined yet, but can you guess what I mean by “auto-no”? How about when I say, one of the most pervasive problems I see in parenting strategies across the board is … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting Ideas | Tagged alfie kohn, anxiety, attachment parenting, auto-no, childhood development, children, escalation, exploration, natural drives, natural parenting, parenting, radical parenting strategies, resistance, urge-purge, YES! | 6 Comments

Tag Archives: alfie kohn

Digging a Little Deeper than “Misbehavior”

Co-Operation Beats Compliance Every Time

Rehab for Praise-aholics *

This Day… 4.14.13

Roots and Wings (Re-Blogged)

Losing “No.” and Finding “Yes!”

(Back to) the Basics V: Who’s the Boss

Choose Your Own Adventure Parenting pt III

Parent-Centered Parenting

Rehab for Praise-aholics

Spoil the Rod, Spare the Child

Roots and Wings

The (Very) Bottom Line

No, no, Auto-no

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