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Digging a Little Deeper than “Misbehavior”

So — there’s this dirty little parenting myth that started decades ago and that lingers still in the rarely mentioned corners of the current social parenting contract corrupting the ears of those who listen, and driving opposition into the hearts of families everywhere. … Continue reading

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Co-Operation Beats Compliance Every Time

“How many times do I have to tell you?!” “When are you going to learn?” “If you don’t listen to me…!”  If you’ve ever been around kids for more than a minute, you’ve likely heard some of their parents say at least something … Continue reading

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This Day… 4.14.13

It did actually — somehow both finally and instantly — happen. There we were, watching this girl — this little, brand new baby of a girl, suddenly a 3-foot lightning bolt — racing around a field, with other kids she barely … Continue reading

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Losing “No.” and Finding “Yes!”

I have written directly about a portion of the discourse I want to take up in this post in some detail before, and referred to this notion multiple times. Thus far, however, I have only closely considered the “no” side … Continue reading

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(Back to) the Basics V: Who’s the Boss

Today, I want to return to this (increasingly in-depth!) series on basic tools, perspectives, and approaches for Natural Parenting, Attachment Parenting, Cro-Magnon Parenting — whatever your favorite monicker. Before I do that, though, here are links to all of the … Continue reading

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Re-consideration (Re-blogged)

Originally posted on "A Beautiful Place of the World":
Have you ever thought about how much you ask of your child(ren) on a daily basis? Have you ever (even once) stopped to consider whether or not your current…

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Choose Your Own Adventure Parenting pt III

Welcome to the third and final (?!) portion of this post considering Jennifer Senior’s article in last summer’s New York Magazine, All Joy and No Fun (Why Parents Hate Parenting), which describes modern parenting as almost if not totally lacking in … Continue reading

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Parent-Centered Parenting

The other day, I cut and posted an article that I’d gotten hold of from some fellow parent-bloggers in India. It was discussing research into four different styles of parenting. One of the comments I got back really struck a … Continue reading

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The Family that Schools at Home pt III

Here is the final installment in the epic tale of how we handle education in our home. You’ll no doubt remember (or easily be able to jump back and find out using the following links) that in Part I and … Continue reading

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Things that make you go, “D’OH!” (The Socializer)

Round two of this theme has me wishing I had the choir here in front of me, so I could preach right to them. Those who agree will likely be on their feet in a matter of moments with an … Continue reading

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Rehab for Praise-aholics

So let’s say you’re “open” to the idea of not using any punishment or praise with your child(ren)… My guess is, with any sincerity, you will find it easier than you now think possible to switch from auto-piloting through various threats … Continue reading

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Spoil the Rod, Spare the Child

I feel a little funny posting about this — like, “surely everyone has figured this out” — but I have seen a number of posts on other peoples’ blogs, lately, about whether or not it is appropriate or preferable to use … Continue reading

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Roots and Wings

From where does your parenting come? Do you know? Have you considered what it is that motivates, informs, and drives you in dealing with your children? It’s a silly question really — and if we were raised in a healthy, … Continue reading

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The (Very) Bottom Line

My esteemed partner/lover/child-tender/magic-maker, Natalie, and I have been talking (as some couples do…) about parenting — and other stuff — for as long as we have been together. It is something we do, like people-watching, and river-dipping, and decaf-latte-drinking. We talk … Continue reading

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No, no, Auto-no

I don’t know if this term has been officially coined yet, but can you guess what I mean by “auto-no”? How about when I say, one of the most pervasive problems I see in parenting strategies across the board is … Continue reading

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