* * * * Summer vacation is winding down — but don’t worry there’s still plenty of time for you to totally lose your cool with your kids, make a few jerky choices, and then clean up that mess before school starts! Here’s a few thoughts on what to do (and not do) when you blow it. Enjoy! * * * *
Generally speaking, we parents like to think of ourselves as the adults in our relationships with our children, right? Unfortunately, this perspective often binds us to the idea of being “right” all the time, or being the ideal version of a grown-up human, or being the “one in charge”, or being the only “authority figure” in the room. And just as often, we get stuck inside our roles and confused about how to orchestrate the seemingly opposing drives of our parental identities. For instance, when we make a mistake of any real import, as we do and surely will, we get paralyzed by the seeming contradiction between maintaining our “position” and risking a loss of face by admitting and addressing our mistake(s).
The thinking seems to go that, if we admit being less than “parental”, we will lose our ability to be effective parents — and generally…
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