* * * * Re-blogging this one on the dangers and some alternatives to runaway praising. If we want our children to know we see and appreciate them, to know we love them, or to do certain things — praise and rewards are the methods to avoid. * * * *
So let’s say you’re “open” to the idea of not using any punishment or praise with your child(ren)… My guess is, with any sincerity, you will find it easier than you now think possible to switch from auto-piloting through various threats of and/or actual punishments to processing through the issue — asking questions, listening, and discussing — working with your child(ren) to sort out problems that arise for you and fulfilling as many of everyone’s needs as possible. Changing habits around praising your child(ren), however, may be a bit more of an uphill battle — for the whole family.
We parents will all have our own reasons for this, to be sure, but I bet we all share some reasons as well. When it comes to praising, the action itself can feel so much more innocuous than teeth-clenched threats of spankings or “an eternal time-out!!!”. We look down at these…
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