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I’ve inadvertently started a new trend of re-blogging some of my “oldies but goodies” each week. They’ll be in addition to two other new posts I’ll do each week as well: one on parenting topics and the other on family/gratitude enjoyment. This week, I’m re-posting this one, taking up one of Alfie Kohn’s suggestions to check in with ourselves before we make requests of our children. It’s a simple set of thoughts, but important ones. I hope you’ll find them useful in your parenting practice.
Have you ever thought about how much you ask of your child(ren) on a daily basis? Have you ever (even once) stopped to consider whether or not your current request — or any one of them — is a reasonable one, or necessary? I think we parents often tend to refuse and to ask things of our children without really considering what it is we are doing. We can get habitual about saying, “No,” because we fool ourselves into thinking that it’s easier, or that we are saving ourselves from our kids running amok. And likewise, we can get habitual about asking things of our children that are unreasonable, ill-timed, and/or absolutely unnecessary.
What I am asking (of both you and myself) is that we spend an instant, right before we make requests of our children to check in with our brains and see if what we are…
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