“Parentisms” is a little series offering tiny mantras and quick thoughts on the nature of parenting. My hope is that these little perspective framers will be a boon for parents of all sorts, regardless of your particular philosophy or approach.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about Time. No, not the magazine — but the slip through your fingers, gone before you know it, wish I could go back and just…, catches up with all of us kind of Time. In case you haven’t noticed, it’s fleeting, people! And As Ferris Bueller so aptly put it, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
The other day I was talking to a mom of three, whose youngest is 3 months. She started to say, but then caught herself first and offered the intro: “I know everyone always says this…”, (and she’s right, we all do say it) “but they just grow up sooo fast.” And she’s right about that, too. These kids we have trundling around our ankles and knees — well it’ll be a blink before they are shoulder to shoulder with us and out the door.
And although all parents say it, and we’ve all felt it — as the birthdays roll by at a blistering pace — we can still get caught up with things that won’t matter nearly as much in the long run as spending time with our children. We can still get distracted, we can still lose perspective, and we can still forget to notice the weeds shooting up before us. We’ve got to stop and enjoy it, savor the experience, and allow the moment to fill us, or we’ll miss it. And I’m not just talking about missing seconds, here.
So, may I encourage you (and me) to take the opportunity, today, to invest some time in the people, experiences, and moments that really matter. Let us stop the carousel of daily goings-on at least long enough to look our children in the faces, connect with the person each is becomming, and share some of their racing time with ourselves — while we still have the chance. Now, I’ve got that Jackson 5 song stuck in my head: “You better stop, the love you save may be your own…”
Enjoy the fleeting moments of your child’s childhood, friends, and