This is a little series I’ll be doing throughout the year, offering tiny mantras and quick thoughts on the nature of parenting. My hope is that these little perspective framers will be a boon for parents of all sorts, regardless of your particular philosophy or approach.
The main idea bouncing around my brain today keeps occurring to me in the form of a biblical-styled proverb, something like: “As the parents sew, the family shall reap.” That may be a little heavy handed phrasing for some of you, but the point is simple and universal: the whole family lives out the choices of the parents. Or perhaps more to the point at present: whatever we parents put in, the whole family gets out.
Regardless of your parenting style, whether you choose strict dominion, empathetic negotiation, quiet permissiveness, or (as is most likely) some point in between, you can count on the universal law of parenting investment return. The energy, attentiveness, love, care, compassion, discipline, information, leadership, and anything else we bring to our children via our parenting of them, comes back to the whole family. Or put another way: whatever we do in raising our children, is like placing a particular kind (or kinds) of seed into the rich, fertile soil of our children’s characters, which given the right nurturing, will sprout and grow and flower in the adults our children become.
Makes me want to be real conscientious about what seeds I’m bringing to these precious fields.
Be well, my fellow family farmers.