I ask this of my clients a lot. They then immediately begin whittling down the domain of such a huge question. “You mean, ‘outta life’?” or “Do I know what I want from who?” or “… what I want for my kids?” or “… what I want in this situation?” The idea of just being with everything they want is most often too much for them. They get overwhelmed with all the — possibility.
So we focus on an area — “Pick an area…” And we hone in and look at what they like and what they don’t like, what they avoid and what they cannot resist. We look at what they say and what they skip saying about what means most to them. We dig into what makes them sing and what leaves them cold, what they know about themselves and what they can only guess. We may spend less than an hour, we may spend weeks, or months –considering the angles, adding up the choices, deciphering patterns, asking powerful questions — looking and looking.
There is, of course, a lot of other “work” that gets done via the fruit of these potent conversations, but in the eventual, a clearer picture of what they want in life (or specific aspects thereof), and a clearer picture of who they are and want to be is what they really gain. And that is what empowers them to move toward and manifest lives that are full of the things they want and full of opportunities to be who they most want to be. Helping people dis-cover themselves is actually what I do for a living.
So believe me when I tell you, it is worth considering. What do you want?
Pick an area, if you have to, choose something juicy — something like, “What do I want for my… career?” or “What do I want for my kid(s)?” or even “What do I want for my love life?(!)” And see if you can make a list. If it comes easily, or if you feel determined, maybe you could make a huge list of aaalllllll the things you want for your whole current life. Maybe there is just one thing — but call it out nonetheless. Make a collage, sketch a simple drawing, or design a symbol of some other sort. Make a claim to the universe, “I want this!” Or just tell yourself.
Knowing what you want from, for, or out of anything (even if you still want to hold your expectations loosely) is the only way to get it. You are worth knowing what you want. And you are worth having it as well. Both will come easiest by recognizing that what you want is simply the “thing(s)” you already have inside you waiting to be claimed. To know what there is for you in this life (and to manifest it!), get to know what you want.
Bon chance! And be well.