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Tag Archives: praise and punishment
Shakespearian Parenting Advice
Wow! What an insanely busy couple of weeks I’ve just had — way, way busier than I like to be, unless it’s busy in the yard, or busy playing! I’ve now reached that light at the end of the proverbial … Continue reading →
“Encouragement!”
A week or so ago, Natalie and I watched the 2009 movie Couple’s Retreat with Vince Vaughn, Jason Bateman and a few other recognizable faces, including (though less recognizably) Carlos Ponce as the tantric yoga instructor, Salvadore, who teaches the … Continue reading →
The Trust Equation
Today, I wanted to present you with a simple parenting algebra equation to derive trust. It says that the trust our kids feel in us is directly proportional to the product of three variables: a) our trust in ourselves as … Continue reading →
Being is not a Behavior
Last week, I posted about time-outs and the disservice I think they do to parent-child relations, and to children’s sense of security, as well as, the miserable failure of time-outs to effectively teach children anything about how we would prefer … Continue reading →
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Time-Outs Aren’t Worth Your Time
I’ve noticed in several different places on the internet in the last couple of weeks various writers, parenting experts, and parents, discussing the proper use of time-outs. And I just have to say, the only necessary or effective use of … Continue reading →
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Parentisms: Children are not Football Teams
Goal obsession, competition, performance pressure, roaring praise, penalties, and time-outs… No, these aren’t the key words for a Google search on professional football. These are methods commonly espoused by “parenting experts” for raising our children. In Western society, at least, we … Continue reading →
Training Wheels for Toddler Negotiations
As an additional part to the previous posts on the subject, I wanted to spend a little time discussing how to handle avoiding praise, punishment, and other coercive methods with little ones who are not yet developmentally capable of carrying … Continue reading →
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Rehab for Praise-aholics
So let’s say you’re “open” to this idea of not using any punishment or praise with your child(ren)… My guess is, with any sincerity, you will find it easier than you now think to switch from auto-piloting through various threats … Continue reading →
Without a Net
Thus far, I think I’ve only mentioned this in passing — (drum roll, please) — Natalie and I do not use any praise with our girls, nor any punishment. Recent themes of the parenting blogosphere remind me that this is … Continue reading →
